Having had plenty of time to myself I have been doing a bit of holiday reading, just finished a book called
'Why men don't listen and women can't read raod maps', by Allan and Barbara Pease.
It's all about the different wiring of male and female brains, and links it all back to hormones and evolution (The jury is still out on the evolution thing, I have just read a couple of books by
John and Stasi Eldredge (called 'captivating' and 'Wild at heart'), about wiring of men's and womens brains, linking it all back to creation, the fall and the reflection of God's image, which interestingly, comes to the same overall conclusions about the emotional needs and drives of men and women!). I think just linking relationships back to a whole lot of chemical and electrical impulses cheapens the whole thing and makes it a bit too scientific for my overly romantic approach to life, but nevertheless, there are some interesting study and test results that explain a bit about how misunderstandings happen between men and women, and how the 'laws of attraction' came to be. Thought I might share a few of these gems, as they are quite amusing.
High testosterone has been linked to several traits in men, and women are told to look out for:
left handed, bald, bearded accountants with baritone vioces who read road maps and sneeze at the same time. Testosterone-driven agression also explains why
90% of the people in prison are men.
Because men generally require a structured task or objective in their day to day activities, the stress of accompanying their partner on a 'shopping' trip (and also of working out the 'right' answer to her questions), means that
most men get a brain heamorrhage after 20 minutes of shopping.In the male brain, testosterone enhances the 'spatial ability' of men, such that they can easily picture objects from different perspectives than what they a can actually see, and have a better sense of direction without visual landmarks. Hence women tend to turn road maps upside down to orientate themselves. As a result,
most men can usually point north, no matter where they are, and women find it much harder to reverse parallel park. Women are in fact safer drivers, because most their 'dings' happen at slow speed, while men's tesosterone driven agression and competitiveness results in high speed accidents. However, on the topic of hormonal treatments "
a bald head and beard might be too high a price to pay for women to improve their spatial skills"
As to men having 'one thing' on the brain, apparently
women are often safe with a Chinese man who loves classical music and works part time, but she should beware of hard-working jazz pianists.Blond hair is a sign of high oestrogen and hence high fertility, which is why men are attracted to blondes. After having each baby, oestrogen levels drop and hair darkens, which is why there are much fewer natural blondes over 30.Women really are more capable of multi tasking because they have more connetions between the right and left sides of the brain compared to men, who tend to compartmentalise things.
Anyway, that's what I've been learning in the last few days. I think it is important to approach these type of books with a bit of a critical approach, but these things are very interesting and I reckon they do shed some light on what is going on in people's brains (literally!).
We are off to the Atherton Tablelands next weekend, and hopefully the camera battery charger will be fixed, so I will be able to show you some of the most beautiful North Queensland Wet Tropics scenery. (that's if Tropical Cyclone Larry hasn't wiped us all out in the meantime!I'll leave you with some of my favourite gems from that book:- How many men does it take to change a roll of toilet paper? We don't know, it never happened.
- Tests show that women rate 3% higher general intelligence than men
- Men prefer looks to brains becuase most men can see better than they can think
- Women haven't failed - they've only failed to be like men.
By the way, I'm not a feminist, and don't condone the degradation of either sex, but for the sake of a giggle, I thought these were worth sharing! :)